Thursday, May 28, 2026

MEMORIAL DAY 2026

 

Memorial Day is my favorite holiday of the year!

I have such fond memories of going with my family to take flowers to the cemetery for my brother’s grave when it was still called Decoration Day.  Then we would usually have a picnic in the back yard with my two married sisters and their families who lived in my hometown.  

My graduation from Brigham Young University was on Friday, May 31st—the day after Memorial Day 1968—before Congress mandated in 1971 that Memorial Day was to be the last Monday in May forever after. What a great date for me!   Still celebrating Memorial Day!

When my children were growing up Memorial Day was the official start of the “Nichols Family Summer” and all that George Gershwin wrote about the living being “easy”.  After washing windows and cleaning the garage in the early morning, we would spend the rest of the holiday playing games, going on a long bike ride, and eating our favorite summer barbeque foods.  

After my children were much older, we would run together in the BOLDERBolder 10K race before a short rest followed by our holiday picnic and evening fun.

Once my children got married and had their own children, any of the Nichols Family who could would get together for a fun-filled holiday with many of our favorite Memorial Day activities.


 But now it is just my husband and me.  Not as much fun as it used to be when the day was full of so many people and events.  This year it was going to be an empty backyard, so I proposed we go on a day trip.  Louis picked Colorado Springs—close, yet still far enough away that it felt like an occasion.

 We saw so many stores with outdoor displays featuring riots of blooms and potted flowers, each shouting “Pick me! Pick me!” to the throngs of people purchasing summer livery to enhance their yards for the ultimate get-away of a summer afternoon.  No wonder Henry James said the two most beautiful words in the English language have always been “summer afternoon”!

I didn’t buy any of those beautiful blossoms, however when I saw a display of colorful pinwheels, I bought one to enhance the atmosphere of summer afternoons in my own space.  So, when I see it turning in the breeze, I will remember my favorite holiday and all the memories that make it that!

                                                                                         

Monday, May 18, 2026

WILLPOWER VS. THE SAVIOR'S POWER

 



My father worked 43 years for the Union Pacific Railroad, first as a fireman when he started in 1927 long before I was born, then as a locomotive engineer as the years passed before his retirement in 1971 when I was a young married woman with two small boys.  Those early days my dad spent working for the U.P.R.R. were characterized by stoking the fires on steam locomotives for his regular run from my
Wyoming home—Rawlins to Green River—before his promotion to engineer about the time I was born in the mid 1940’s.

A few months ago, one of my nephews, just eight years younger than myself, decided to write a series of essays for his children and grandchildren highlighting lessons from the everyday in the lives of his family.  He has shared some of those essays with me.  His writing is thoughtful, clear, and spot on with the corollaries to life they express.  I include here an excerpt of one essay he wrote about my father’s work for the Union Pacific Railroad in his position as train engineer.

“Once my grandfather as engineer climbed into that locomotive cab along with the fireman, they faced a "Wyoming Sandwich": sub-zero winds whipping at their backs while the firebox heat scorched their fronts. To move a thousand tons of steel over the Continental Divide required an intimate understanding of their machine. In a steam engine, the throttle only lets the steam out of the boiler. The real mastery lies in the Johnson Bar, the lever that controls how much steam enters the power cylinders.

“A novice engineer keeps the valves open for the entire stroke, using every ounce of pressure to force the piston forward. The old-timers called this "tearing the fire," because it created such a vacuum in the smokestack that it pulled the burning coal right off the grates and sent it shooting into the night sky. Heat was lost because they were trying too hard for speed.

“But a master like my grandfather knew the "Art of the Cutoff." He would start the piston with a small, calculated "sip" of steam, perhaps just the first twenty percent of the stroke, and then he would "hook her up." He closed the valve which allowed the expansive power of the steam already inside to do the rest of the work. The two railroad men in the cab would then let the heat provide the momentum that their own muscles never could.

“I’ve come to see this as a perfect window into the Atonement. We often try to power through every trial with 100% of our own willpower, convinced that if we

just push harder, we will find the speed we need. We exhaust ourselves, and in our frantic intensity, we burn out like those coal fragments shooting into the night sky.

“The Savior is the expansive power of the Cutoff. Life works better when we offer our honest effort—our "twenty percent"—and then allow the Atonement of Jesus Christ to provide the infinite, expansive force that carries us the rest of the way. He does not wait for us to reach the destination before He helps; He enters the cylinder of our lives the moment we open the valve to Him. His Grace is the momentum that our own strength can never produce.”  (Paul Eyre—Tyler, Texas)

 

Though I often heard tales of the hard work that had to be performed in those steam locomotive engines (related to us after my father had returned home black with soot, full of cinders, and bone tired from the relentless cold and sheer physical effort to man that powerful machine) at that time I never recognized the lessons those experiences held for those with discerning minds.

Although I now can see a broader application of the “Johnson Bar” as I determine just how much of the Savior’s power I will allow for Him to carry me the rest of the way as I journey through life in need of His atoning grace to forgive, to comfort, and to enable me. I have learned I cannot do all that on my own.   However, I am sometimes as imprudent as a novice engineer trying too hard for speed.  But when I acknowledge I cannot “do it all on my own”, I receive a momentum to move forward with far more than my singular strength can produce.

Think of situations in your own life when you felt that you couldn’t “do it” on your own.  Willpower just wasn’t enough to get through whatever trial you were experiencing.  Were you humble enough to acknowledge you needed the Savior’s help to carry your burden so you could move ahead?  We’ve all been there, certain we could persevere without help if we just tried harder. 

In April 2026 General Conference of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints, Elder Dale G. Renlund taught this truth about the Atonement: “Because of Jesus Christ, all that is unfair in life can and will be made right. He will consecrate our afflictions for our gain. He will sanctify to us our deepest distress. He will fill with sweet a bitter cup. He will dependably and consistently make us whole. If we let Him, we will “suffer no manner of afflictions, save it [is] swallowed up in the joy of Christ.”

So, I invite you—and me, too—to do things differently.  Ask for help, the Savior’s atoning rescue, in the very beginning of your ordeal and let His loving power cover your path forward.  His grace is sufficient.  It will save soooo much heartache and pain if we trust His expansive power of the “Cutoff” right at mile marker one.