Saturday, September 30, 2023

A LIFE-LONG LESSON IN OBEDIENCE

 

                            

TITHING 


My mother was the organist for our congregation during my entire growing up years.  We lived in a small town, and for most of those years there were no other people in our church who could play the organ.  So, my mother managed that assignment quite single-handedly.  It was also her responsibility to choose the hymns for our worship services. 

Not only did I hear the hymns often in my home, but my mother arranged for my piano teacher (who was the organist in her Methodist congregation) to use our church’s hymnbooks in my own piano instruction.  With that arrangement I had two-fold opportunity to become very familiar with the hymns. 

Even as a little girl, I had my favorites:  Battle Hymn of the Republic, Praise to the Man, There Is Sunshine in My Soul Today, and Gently Raise the Sacred Strain, among others.  And… Abide with Me.  Actually, there are two hymns in our hymnal—  Abide with Me, Tis Eventide, and  Abide with Me, each composed by a different person.  I liked them both—first for the melody with the words, and then as I got older for the text message that gives such heartfelt petition for the Savior to abide with us.

I have always been taught that the Savior will abide with us (stay nearby and succor us) as we continually strive to strengthen our individual relationship with Him while keeping our covenant connection to Him.  This is the foundation rock we choose to build our lives on.  It is the source of enduring hope, peace, and joy, just as we sing in those two hymns.   We abide in the Savior’s love by keeping His commandments.

Curious to know if I had successfully taught this principle of “abiding” to my children, I sent a message to 19 of my children and grandchildren asking what their experiences have been in the correlation of their keeping the commandments and having the Savior abide with them.  All who responded gave pretty much the same response—their lives go more smoothly, and their trials and setbacks have the proper perspective because they know the Lord is abiding with them.

I, too, could think of so many general ways I have been blessed with the abiding presence of Christ as I have kept “the commandments”.  There is always an almost imperceptible feeling that Christ is nearby. 

But I also remembered some very specific times I have kept a singular commandment that brought added testimony of the Savior’s love and abiding influence. 

This is one of those lessons in obedience to a commandment:

One summer between school years at Brigham Young University, my bishop, who owned a construction company, invited me to work part-time in the office at his business.  It was a great job. However, the office was in a rather isolated part of our town where there were only industrial concerns like the construction company, the local cement plant, a distribution warehouse, and a lumber yard.  No residential areas at all.  So completely off the beaten path, in fact, no one ever wandered through that complex.

The door to the office where I worked was in front of my desk and in direct eye-line with the gravel lot where I parked my car.  Mine was usually the only car in that place all day long.  And, since we were all a friendly lot in our town, no one bothered to lock car doors.  Including me.  I would even leave my purse on the front seat of the car because there was no obvious need for me to take it into the office with me.  What would I use it for?

One day near the end of the summer, I parked my car in front of the office leaving my purse on the front seat, as usual.  However, on this particular day there was a twenty-dollar bill in my purse which was my tithing money.*   Why in the world did I have that in my purse? I don’t have a clue.  However, as I got into the car to go home for lunch, I had a thought to look into my purse.  Much to my horror, the money was gone! 

Who could have taken it?  While sitting at my desk that morning I could see my car the whole time.  No one had opened the car door and then opened my purse.  In fact, no one ever came around that area anyway.  We were literally in the boonies.

As I shared the crushing news with my mother that I now had no money to pay my tithing, she gently suggested that I go to the bank and withdraw another $20 to pay my tithing—and that the Lord would provide. But HOW was I going to have enough money to pay for my housing expense when I went back to BYU?  Twenty dollars was one month’s rent!  

But I knew my mom was right.  I had paid a full tithing on all the money I had earned over the years babysitting, delivering newspapers and taking in ironing.  It was an established habit.  Yet this was a tough way to compensate for my stupidity.  

Almost reluctantly, I went to the bank to withdraw the $20.  And wisely kept the money on my person until I turned it into our bishop at church the following Sunday.

It was too embarrassing to tell my bishop/employer what a foolish thing I had done.  Leaving my purse in the car—with my tithing money in it, no less.  I kept that to myself.  I was too humiliated to admit my folly!

Yet, quite surprisingly a couple of weeks later, my bishop/employer came into the office and told me that he had been really pleased with my work that summer.  He had decided to increase my pay by twenty-five cents an hour.  In 1965 the minimum wage was one whole dollar.  So, a 25-cent raise was significant!!!  

When it was time for me to return to college, and I tallied up my earnings, that $.25/an hour was just exactly—to the PENNY—enough to make up the $20 I had taken out of my savings account to pay my tithing. 

The Lord had remembered my need and provided a way to pay my rent because I had been obedient to that very important commandment of tithing as part of my covenant promise to him.

I am a witness that same outcome of obedience continues to be true in my life.  I know without doubt that Jesus Christ abides in us as we choose to make Him the foundation of all we do.

Obedience is a blessing....


*(Tithing is a "free-will offering" of 10 % of a person's "increase" which is given to the church.  In this day and age tithing is paid in monetary equivalents.)

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Friday, September 29, 2023

A COLLEGE FRIENDSHIP STORY

 ROOMMATE EXTRAORDINAIRE  

                                            

I had over a dozen roommates during the four years I was a student at BYU.  All of them added some kind of positive influence to my life and enhanced my relationship experiences in various ways.  But it was a young woman I met when I first arrived at BYU that made the biggest impact on me.

Sue actually lived upstairs from me during our freshman year, however we became friends and decided to be roommates the next year…and the next.  That was a choice that had so many great outcomes. 

This roommate was president of our dorm.  I was a counselor in the Relief Society.  That gave us double opportunity to be together because our dorm mother was the Relief Society President and included the two of us as partners, not only in helping the girls build friendships at our dorm home but also helping them build a sisterhood at Church.

Even though I had seven sisters, they were all much older than I was. Therefore, we didn’t have the kind of sister connection many sisters who are close in age have.  I found that kind of bond with this new friend. I remember lying in bed one night while we were talking to each other and thinking how much I loved Sue!  This was the “sister” experience I had never had.

We had different majors.  Nevertheless, our interests were very similar, so it was easy to discuss a lot of different topics related to our classes. We even took a couple of required classes together. Each knew the other’s student number and would check exam scores, etc., if we were near the other’s classroom.  We had similar ideas of keeping house, doing the cooking responsibilities, and how to have fun.  It was a symbiotic relationship in a lot of ways.

Neither of us was even remotely athletic, but we were game to try the same Women’s Physical Fitness class since we had to have a PE credit to graduate.  What a hoot as we bounced up and down doing jumping jacks, learned the basics of soccer, and devised a routine to the theme from Peter Gunn, a popular television series at the time!   

I’ll never forget how we got through the required biology class we took together by making up pretend “Headlines” for every remotely funny incident that happened each period.  “Coed Penned to Death Following Ballpoint Malfunction” was one of the attention-grabbing titles after another student’s pen came apart and the tiny spring zinged her neck.  We would fall over laughing about that one every time either of us repeated the headline.

It was Sue who introduced me to the local folk trio The Three D’s who were so popular at BYU during the 60’s.  We just about wore out the LP “The Soul of Poetry” playing it over and over nearly every day.  My memories were still so vibrant of the classical poetry set to the contemporary folk music of the 3 D’s, I even went online a few years ago and found the CD with all the original selections including Jabberwock by Lewis Carroll and Annabel Lee by Edgar Allan Poe.  What reminiscences of those days at B-15 Wymount Terrace.

We shared our family histories with each other and pretty much knew the names of parents, siblings, in-laws, nieces and nephews and significant others—including the idiosyncrasies and the sad experiences, too.  We felt like we were related.

When we graduated in 1968 and each began a different road in life, Sue and I kept in touch with news over the years until it finally became only an exchange at Christmas and birthdays.  Still, we were friendly and interested in each other in spite of the years slipping by. But when her son called a couple of years ago just after Christmas and said he had seen my latest holiday greeting to her, I was truly saddened when he said he thought I would like to know Sue had passed before Thanksgiving. 

It was a friendship that long outlived my college career.  I miss her!